Am I actually any good in the sack? It can sometimes feel like sex is the most important thing in the world. But is thinking about sex like this necessarily the best way to go about things? But thinking about sex in this way can mean you run into problems. Because sex, like so many other things in relationships, is about communication. And talking it through - either before or after.
14 Things Only People Who Are Too Good At Sex Will Understand
‘How do I know if I’m any good at sex?’
One way to monitor your performance is through noise — are they making any? Well, maybe. Studies have shown people less confident in their sexual prowess are quieter during the act, so while this may be an argument for you to turn up your grunts, it may mean your partner needs some encouragement too. Plus, one piece of research found that two-thirds of women — although this could apply to anyone who has sex with men — made more noises because they knew it helped their partner reach orgasm quicker. Cultural pressures influence how loud we are during sex, too — many pornographic scenes are noisier than a fire in a pet shop, which may put us under pressure to vocalise, while some men may hold on to the damaging belief that sex noises make them sound less of a man.
How to know if you’re actually good in bed
Subscriber Account active since. The act of sex may be a normal conversation piece nowadays, but one thing people tend to still play coy about is the topic of good sex. What happens, though, if your previous partners or current partner is shy? Following are some surefire signs that prove you have what it takes to provide pleasure in the bedroom.
As much as we all might want to believe we're amazing between the sheets, the truth is that not everyone is inherently a first-rate lover. But how can you tell if you're good in bed when "good in bed" is such a subjective idea in the first place? After all, everyone has different sexual likes and dislikes , so what's "good" to one person might be awful to the next. But when you boil it down, there are a few key traits that people who are truly good at sex have in common.